Thursday, July 30, 2009

The Dating World

I've become frustrated with focusing all my energy on one person unsuccessfully. I would like to find someone who enjoys my company, and will commit to it. I just want a companion. That is the problem with people nowadays is that they don't want to commit and dedicate themselves to anything. Relationships are fleeting to people of my generation. We live in a distracted world, where everyone is always focused on the latest sensation or recent piece of technology. People get bored and move onto the next thing. Relationships are bust.

And yet, for some reason, the romantic in me continues to believe that there is someone out there for me. I am the Hopeful Romantic.

I haven't much experience with dating. As a teenager, I was a misfit, very uncool, and very lonely. The few so-called relationships I had were short lived. The only person I actually dated and had a serious relationship with is still one of my best friends.

I'm just getting into the whole dating world in my 20s. It's interesting, scary, weird, and fun all at the same time. I am very selective about who I meet. Sometimes I meet other people through friends. The internet also provides new ways for people to meet and has resulted in many people finding something special with one another. I am keeping my options open. I am also cautious. I am taking my time and won't settle for any turkey who happens to land at my doorstep.


Melanie O. said...

I totally agree that the whole dating thing sucks, but I'm not sure how else you can meet people and get to know them on a more intimate basis. I like how things were done in Colonial times. You met in a group and everyone got to know each other as people first, before partnerships entered into it. There was no such thing as dating. You declared your intentions and they were either returned or not. No second guessing. My rule is - friendship before intimacy - and it's worked for us.

Sabrina said...

I never had a real boyfriend to speak of, and here I am at 30 and I still believe that God has someone out there for me - I just haven't found them yet. So you and I are Hopeful Romantics together, Anthony! There is someone out there for the both of us - we just have to be patient for them to cross our paths.

Sabrina said...

Here I am at 30 and I've never had a real boyfriend in my life! I've had crushes, though, and even those weren't until my late 20s. So you are not alone, Anthony! I'm right there with you! I believe God has someone for everyone, so we need to be patient for that special someone to cross our path. You're a sweet soul, Anthony, & I'm honored to be your friend. Whoever you end up with someday will be one blessed soul!